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Stong Moms Empower. Let’s Support Each Other Mummies!

There is no way to be a perfect mother and a million ways to be a good one — Jill Churchill.

Experts agree that motherhood is even more difficult now than it was for past generations of Mums, with nearly one in three Mums consciously make parenting decisions to avoid criticism from others — Doctor Michele Borba

A few weeks ago, here in New York City, I was invited to the Strong Moms Empower Summit and Luncheon. I have to admit, as I am invited to a lot of events, I really did not know what I was walking in to. I actually thought it was a casual get together with a few other local Mummy Bloggers. However, when I arrived at the gorgeous Alexandria Center overlooking the East River, I straight away knew otherwise. This was a really BIG deal. To start with the space was gorgeous and secondly there was a couple of hundred “movers and shakers” in the Mummy world on site.

Strong Moms Empower is a call-to-action campaign that is working towards Stopping Bullying Among Parents. Yes, you read correctly – Parents. Apparently in today’s world there is a ton of bullying going on both online and offline which in turn is making Mothers unsure of their decisions, afraid to speak their minds and causing a lot of insecurity and sadness. BUT, we’re all Mums right and on the same team? Evidently, this is not so.

Being at this luncheon and listening to the speakers, I thought back to times that I have been bullied online by other parents. Once, only just having given birth, I posted a question about breastfeeding my Son, to which another Mother commented that “I was only breastfeeding because I could not afford formula”??? Hmm, I just did not even know what to say to that, it literally blew my mind so I decided not to say anything at all. Or, more recently when I posted a picture of my 2.5 year old Son on the Willy B Mum Facebook page with his nails painted the same color as mine, to where another Mother decided it was best to comment that; “That is ridiculous, why are you creating an excuse for him to be bullied at school”?? One, he is 2.5 and does not go to school yet and two isn’t that what you are doing to me right now by leaving that comment?

Unfortunately, I am sure you can all think back to one or another situations where you have also been made to feel inadequate by another parent!

All Mothers are different, and all Mothers love their children right? So, why all the hatred and negativity, from other Mothers towards Mothers, that are in the same boat trying to do the best they can to raise their children?

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Parents choose many many ways to bring up children and no matter your personal choice there is going to be another parent who is doing completely the opposite and unfortunately may give you a hard time about it!

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My Son and my journey with breastfeeding is finally over… Sigh!

Two weeks ago marked a milestone in my relationship with my toddler Son. After 26 months since Miles Storm was born, back in September of 2010, WE have finally stopped breastfeeding!

I was beginning to wonder if this day would ever come, and surely my husband made a ton of jokes, that I would be one of those Mums who would be breastfeeding until he was at least 6 years old. Ha Ha – really funny Babes!

I have to say that I never thought that I would breastfeed at all, let alone for this long, but isn’t it interesting the changes that happen once you become a Mother? When I was younger, I was scared of what breastfeeding would do to my body after hearing horror stories of how afterwards you have saggy boobs hanging to the floor – guaranteed. If I ever became pregnant, (I absolutely swore naïvely to anybody that would listen), breastfeeding was not an option.

However, once pregnant, that quickly changed to No Way would I ever feed my baby milk that has been tainted with steroids, chemicals and was artificially fortified. Not to mention from another species – yes, I know, I did a total 360 here didn’t I?

So how did it happen? Well, I guess, for me I just became a little fed-up with having to breastfeed my Son as soon as he woke up and to put him to sleep every night. It suddenly became a huge toll on my body mentally and physically, and I was feeling chained to a heavy ball. I know that may sound horrible, but it is the only way I can describe it – towards the end that is exactly how I was starting to feel.

My Son is a big boy now, and I did not feel comfortable being the “be all end all” for him anymore.

My husband wasn’t much help either, whenever Miles would become upset he would say – “Just give him some milk”.  I mean it is okay for him to say!

Two weekends ago, I kind-of-just cracked and I told my Son when he asked for milk (which he affectionately calls Nilk) that Mummy did not have any Nilk anymore and that it was empty and finished. To which he surprisingly replied “Okay Mummy”.

And, as simple as that it stopped. He has asked 2 times since then for Nilk and I have firmly told him again it was finished and empty!

Wow….. all these years that went by with me trying to figure out in my little head how the end was going to happen. I was so unsure of how it was all going to go down, and besides having hard-as-rock boobs for around 10 days and being in extreme pain, I made it through the other side.

And, so did Miles Storm. He is now that little more independent and ready to step-up-to-the-plate on his next challenge.

Oh, the joys of being a First Time Mum!

Yes, I am one of those “Attachment Parenting” Mums.

I never thought that I would still be breastfeeding my 22 month old Son, but I am. Years ago, I actually thought that I would never breastfeed at all as I worried about what it would do to my body, selfish yes I know. It was easy to say then as I really had no idea of the differences in cow milk formula and breast milk. I am not a big fan of cow’s milk, and my Son actually cannot drink or eat cow products as he breaks out in the skin condition eczema.

Miles Storm was born a month early, (which was very considerate of him as I did not have to go through the last month in the heat here in NY), and weighed 5+ pounds – he was so tiny.  I remember being in the hospital having a nurse show me what to do, I mean it was so surreal, I did not even think that the milk would come, but it did. Then came blurred months on end of sleepless nights getting up every 3 hours to feed him, I cannot say I miss that part at all!

Three months ago I visited my home town in Melbourne Australia by myself with my Son. Flying to Melbourne from the United States is one of the longest plane trips ever, we were in the air for 21 hours total each way, and that did not include the 3 hour stopover In LA and getting to and from the airports.

I was so nervous flying all that 9000 miles+ by myself with my super-active-toddler sitting in such a small place. My husband planned to come but it was an important time within his industry and he could not make it, and that is totally okay in my book!

Planning the trip 6 months earlier, I did know that if I could just keep breastfeeding till our departure date it would be easier on both of us…… and it was! The flight, both ways, was smooth sailing, and on both flights when departing the plane other passengers came up to me and said that Miles Storm was the best baby they had flown with. I credit breastfeeding almost entirely to this. I mean, I saw some of their faces when I was settling into my seat at the beginning of the flights, they just thought they were sitting near a soon-to-be out of control screaming baby. Fair enough I would have thought the same thing back in the day!

I had full intentions to stop nursing when I arrived back in New York but it did not happen, my Little Boy just loves his milk so much. And, I mean is it right for me to stop because I want too, shouldn’t it be all about him? I have definitely changed my tune; we are also heading off on a summer holiday to Croatia in 2 months and I know it will be great to have up my sleeve as a party trick again while flying.

Nursing a little one on a plane helps to comfort them in strange surroundings, keeps them occupied in a small limited space, and  helps with take-off and landing because as they are constantly swallowing they do not get the popping ear feeling. It also keeps them quiet which means other passengers aren’t going to be giving you dirty looks! Love that.

Exclusive breastfeeding is recommended up to 6 months of age, with continued breastfeeding along with appropriate complementary foods up to two years of age or beyond. World Health Organization.

My new plan of attack is that I am just going to let him stop nursing when he is ready, and hopefully that is sometime soonish? My husband makes jokes that I am still going to be breastfeeding Miles Storm when he is 6 years old, I always respond “Jokes are meant to be funny babe”.

I know that some people think it is extreme to still breastfeed at this age, but being a stay-at-home Mummy and being able to do so I think that it is fine. I realize that every Mum has to do what works for her and her child. For example, my sister has 5 children and she chose not to breastfeed any of them. Do I judge her, of course not as that is her journey and experience, and she is entitled to it.

Let’s be honest, it is not going to last forever and soon enough it will be just a memory. Let’s not rush it shall we!

Still breastfeeding at 22 months of age