Dear Mum, feel slimmer every day {Leonisa giveaway}

We are so excited to be hosting a fabulous giveaway today, sponsored by Leonisa – makers of high quality, helpful and well made innerwear. This giveaway is especially of interest to new Mothers, as Leonisa make nursing bras, postpartum belly shapers and post pregnancy girdles. However, not limited to, as additionally Leonisa make the most gorgeous bathing suits you have ever seen, as well as lingerie.

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Postpartum panty with adjustable belly wrap

Postpartum Tummy

Ah, the joys of giving birth are many, yes you are holding a beautiful bundle-of-joy in your arms, but let’s face it, you are probably going to have a bit of a bulging tummy too, at least for a while. Completely worth it of course, however even if your “weight” is back to normal, your stretched and weakened abdominal muscles, can leave some Mothers with anxiety as to whether their body is ever going to return to normal.

Thankfully, Leonisa make a range of postpartum pieces, which can boost confidence by making a woman feel supported, tucked in all the right places, and most importantly comfortable.

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Whether this is by wearing one of their lightweight nursing bras (which cleverly comes with a clip-on strap so you keep track of the last breast with which you fed your baby), a postpartum panty with adjustable belly strap, a high-waisted girdle, slimming cincher or one of their various kinds of body shapers. No matter, Leonisa has you covered.

So, what makes this brand fabulous? Well, they have a whole range of features in place, which have secured them as a Mummy favorite all over the World. Try their anti-slip bands built-in, variety of choices with bra straps – halter, strapless, classic, one strap or criss cross, PowerSlim™ technology, seamless items (so another will not be able to tell you are wearing help underneath your clothing) and compression, push up and contour support, to just name a few.

PowerSlim™ is a powerful elastic material that has multi directional reducing strength due to its hexagonal thread pattern. A garment that has PowerSlim™ feels like it fits perfectly to your body with inherent slimming properties that shape, control and support like no other.

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Maternity support panty

We also appreciate Leonisa’s maternity panty by the way, which is suggested for use in the advanced months during pregnancy. This panty helps supports a Mother’s growing belly, aids in back pain and is comfortable enough to sleep in.

Giving Back

As added incentive, by supporting Leonisa, you can be assured that you are behind a company who gives back; since 2005 they have actively been raising awareness by sending educational messages, in regard to the prevention of breast cancer in women.

Did you know that the best time to give yourself a breast exam is 8 days after the first day of your menstrual cycle? Visit HERE to see how to to do this in 4 easy steps.

Leonisa Love

Personally, I love Leonisa, I ordered a retro one piece bathing suit from them last week, for my upcoming family trip to Australia, and it fits so well, not to mention, it is beautiful. My 4-year-old Son actually took a picture of me in it which you can see HERE, telling me I looked “smurftastic”, which put a HUGE smile on my face!

Leonisa, is definitely one of those companies that grows with you, through your journey of before and after becoming a Mother.

GIVEAWAY TIME
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We are giving away, to 2 lucky readers, gift certificates to choose whatever you want from the Leonisa website. The first prize winner will be awarded a $75 gift certificate for any 2 items, and the second prize winner will be awarded a $50 gift certificate for any 1 item.

Perfect timing for a new swimsuit for the upcoming warmer weather. Or, a pair of slimming leggings perhaps? There is much to choose from.

This giveaway starts at 6PM EST on Sunday March the 1st, and ends at 6PM on Tuesday the 10th of March at 6PM EST. It is open to the USA only.

We wish you all the luck in the world on winning this giveaway… it’s a really good one!

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Clean Fifteen and The Dirty Dozen

As a child growing up in Australia, my parents always reminded me to eat my fruits and vegetables, however I never really understood how it important it was until I grew up and began to understand the nutritional value of food. Now that I have my own little bundle-of-joy, together with my husband, we both encourage our Son to have a positive relationship with fruits and vegetables, just like my parents did with me.

However, eating fruits and vegetables in 2015 in the United States, is unfortunately not as straight forward as it seems, and this brings me to the topic at hand, pesticide residue. Once a dirty little secret contained by food companies, these days with the Internet so readily accessible, more and more people are becoming hip to the fact that so much of our food is drowned in pesticides. These chemicals are silent killers that affect both young and old alike. The next time you shop for an apple, hold it and see if it has a waxy feel. That waxy substance you feel is actually pesticide residue and if you were to buy that apple, and not wash it you’d be consuming that waxy residue in your stomach. And, taking it one step further, even if you did wash it, good chance you will not get that residue off the apple, as these chemicals are designed to withstand the natural rain storms.

The Environmental Working Group, fortunately for us, has a list called the Dirty Dozen and Clean Fifteen which highlights fruits and vegetables which have the most and least amount of pesticide residue. It is important to note here, that this list changes every year. This valuable guide help consumers make smarter shopping decisions, like when to buy organic or when you can get away with not buying organic. For example some fruits and vegetables have thicker skins, like pineapple, so the pesticides do not penetrate the inside flesh that we eat… so much.

The handy infographic you see below is a representation of what the EWG promotes, which you can print out to have handy whenever you shop for produce. Or, stay green and go paperless, and save it on your smart phone!

This infographic contains more than just the Dirty Dozen and Clean Fifteen, it also contains information about where to buy organic produce at a cheaper price, and it has information on how to distinguish organically and conventionally grown produce and produce with Genetically Modified Organisms (GMO’s).

It’s the wild wild west out there when it comes to food, and in this case knowledge is power. If you have correct information to make educated choices, as parents we can decide what is right to put on the meal table for our families.

Thanks for stopping by Willy B Mum!

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Winter Awards Giveaway

We are excited to work with Green Scene Mom for another awesome giveaway! Each of these items received a Green Scene Mom Award, celebrating Eco-friendly product design and creative innovation. This fabulous Winter Awards Giveaway is sponsored by the winning brands, and one lucky mom will win them all! Just make sure you enter by last day, Wednesday the 4th of March.

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Enter to Win this Amazing Gift Set, valued at $750!

FunBites Cutter of winner’s choice – $12.99
b.box Essential Travel Bib – $15
BabyHome Side Light Bed Rail – $99
Pure Care Home 4-in-1 Megacare Kit – $39.99
Buttons Diapers 2 packs of Flannel or Velour Wipes – $14
Konfidence Babywarma Swimsuit – $29.99
Wristy Buddy Teething Wristband – $15
Beautiful Earth Baby Box – $59
Pack ‘n Potty – $39.99
Bebe au Lait Organic Nursing Cover – $40
PacaPod Napier Diaper Bag – $170
Pacific Baby Natural Feeding Bowl & Cup – $10.99
MAM Anti-Colic Bottle – $6.99
OTO Ice Cream Truck Playhouse – $59
Yummi Pouch Reusable Food Pouches & Snack Bags – $25
Silikids $40 Assorted Gift Set
Naturalmat Fitted Organic Cotton Percale Crib Sheet – $45
Ava Anderson Baby Powder & Diaper Cream – $25
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Thanks for stopping by Willy B Mum, and good-luck to you on the giveaway!

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Post-Partum Blues, and Getting my Body Back

Oh, how being pregnant for the first time changes your life, in more ways than one. Besides the complete upheaval of your life, there is a little voice in the back of your head wondering how you are even going to look after this little defenseless creature? However, a couple of months in you are rocking and rolling in that department, wondering what you were even worried about in the first place. As it is second nature, and as sure as brushing your teeth you soon figure out how to look after a newborn just fine.

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Personally, my second priority was getting back in shape. We’ve all heard people say things along the lines of “You never get your body back after having a baby”, well I sure have, a million times. And, it really scared me!

I was a high fashion model when I was younger, and my appearance and my level of health has always been very much a priority of mine. Plus, I do want to look attractive to my husband too, and being an older Mother I wanted to have the stamina to keep up with my newly arrived Son.

It took me awhile to figure it all out, I guess I was kind of lazy, or exhausted or I just really was in denial, probably a combination of all above, the first year all seems like a blur to me.

That first year, wow, things changed so quickly. I remember, I started drinking wine regularly again (which I was not doing while pregnant) and no matter how much I exercised I was not losing any weight. Clearly, alcohol is full of sugar! I gained 26 pounds while pregnant, I lost most of it pretty fast after giving birth, however I just could not get rid of that last 10 pounds. That really bothered me. Nothing worse than trying to fit into my favorite jeans and them not fitting, I hated that feeling, which in effect made me depressed, super depressed so I drank more wine and exercised less – vicious wine-o-clock cycle. And, then suddenly, I had put on more weight and I was getting close to my final pregnancy weight again!

I was trying to pretend I looked good in a bikini but I didn’t, here I am in January 2013 at the beach…. this was 2 years after I had my Son, who is four years of age now. I mean, complete denial as secretly I was still wearing pregnancy leggings and those stomach holder-inners like you can find on a website selling  cheap maternity clothes for sale from Bump Baby and Beyond. Yes, I was still wearing some of my maternity clothes and thought I looked good in a bikini; the mind is a funny thing.

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So, what changed??

I had a split-second experience, a year and a half ago, a complete and utter moment of clarity which changed my whole life…. again. I was at the kickboxing gym, I was kind of groggy from drinking wine at dinner the night before, sweating profusely and I caught myself in the mirror. I did not look good, I was bloated, I was struggling physically and I barely recognized the Libby of old; the one that looked after herself and who was happy and strong.

photo 3And, just like that, I decided to stop drinking, to change my diet, to clear my mind and to get my post-pregnancy body back. I knew if I could get a hold of that, I would be in such a better place. I really would be a fit Mum and I would not be kidding myself. There was no turning back on this, and I made it happen.

As I write this, I weigh less than what I did before I had my Son, but not just that I am more toned and I am powerful, I have definition in places I never knew existed. I am fit, I am clear, I am healthy, and I’m very proud of myself, as it was not easy.

Here are some of the things I did to cut unwanted calories and to become healthier;

  • Rid all alcohol from diet; for an Australian this was really really hard for me to do, but I knew it was having a detrimental effect on me so I mustered all the courage I could to change my habit
  • Started following a plant-based diet; following a vegan lifestyle is known to increase one’s life expectancy by up to 7 years compared to meat and dairy consumers, this fact was enough to change my eating habits
  • Started running a lot more and longer distances; running helps you drop overall weight gain on the body and I needed that BIG time
  • Consume minimal processed carbs like bread and pasta; I do enjoy brown rice at times and try to choose healthier pastas like quinoa varieties instead
  • Starting seeing a therapist every week; I can admit that I have a lot of worries in my head being a first-time Mum and committing to therapy has helped me work through them, thus  focusing on the best person I can be
  • Exercise at least 5 days a week, fitting it in wherever I can; for me variety is key I like to ride horses, run, play tennis, do crossfit or kickbox to get my gym fix
  • Walk everywhere I can; thankfully living in New York City I do this daily and what a  wonderful way to get to know this unique city that I live in

And this is how I look now in a bikini… 30 pounds gone from my body as a result of the above!
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In retrospect, what I found on this painful then joyful journey, is that I could get my body back after having a baby and fight through the low esteem I was feeling about myself, not forgetting the sometimes-depression I was also tolerating. That, by putting my mind to it, I could manifest change and make myself feel so much better!

I am a firm believer that Mothers can do it all, we just need to prioritize what it is that we want. For me, that is making time in my daily lifestyle to work on being strong mentally and physically. And, goodness knows, this is not always easy, as Mothers naturally put our children first and forgot about ourselves.

But children need healthy parents more than anything. Health is indeed Wealth.

Thanks for stopping by Willy B Mum!

Big Green Giveaway

Hold on to your hats, as this is a really really BIG giveaway with so many chances to win! And, yes, we are very excited to be co-hosting this giveaway with other like-minded green-hearted bloggers!
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Living green, healthy and organic is more than the products you buy or the lingo you use. It’s about the day-to-day choices we make. Buying from a company that has our family’s health at the core of their being or choosing to recycle. Simply taking a moment to pick trash off the ground or buying used are small steps that make a huge difference. The #BigGreenGiveaway is one more step. Each of the companies listed here are all living green, healthy and organic and they want to help you as you make those green or greener choices. Continue reading

Margaux and May organic swaddle blanket {giveaway}

Here at Willy B Mum, we are very excited to be working alongside an array of fabulous bloggers across the United States and Canada, to help spread the word about Margaux and May.

Organic muslin blanket 3 copyMargaux and May, are a baby product company who are steering away from the cliché baby animals, blues and pinks you generally see when you think “newborn”. Instead, they are putting Mom first, with more “grown up” designs leaning towards style and sophistication. And, you can see that, with the bold print on the twin-set of the organic swaddle blankets we are giving away to our readers.

These blankets are incredibly soft and generously sized at 120cm x 120 cm/47″ x 47″, which are certified by the Global Organic Textile Standard (GOTS) as being made from 100% organic cotton. Not to mention, they are hand-woven by experienced artisans; with a practice dating back to the Bangladesh of Medieval Times.

The swaddles are also vegan, meaning no animal products are used in the making of these blankets, which we love! Organic muslin blanket 7

Likewise, Margaux and May, have our seal of approval on the natural and recycled packaging they use to deliver these luxurious blankets to the world in.

All of these things are a huge plus to a Mother who is doing her best to be green-hearted and save the world, not to mention reduce the amount of toxins a precious little bundle-of-joy is exposed too.

And, we know you also want to try them out for yourself!

Giveaway Time
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We are giving away, to 8 lucky readers, an organic twin swaddle set each retailed at $29.99.

Perfect for the arrival of a beautiful bambino, or as a gift to a friend or family member. Another idea; personally, now that my Son is not in need of a swaddle anymore, I use them on beach holidays as a sarong over my bathers, so maybe you just want to keep it for you!

This giveaway starts at 6PM EST on Sunday February the 15th, and ends at 6PM on Wednesday the 25th of February at 6PM EST. It is open to the USA and Canada only.

However, if outside of these countries you can still purchase the swaddles HERE from Amazon. Confidently, Margaux and May, offer a no questions asked money back guarantee. If you are not completely satisfied with the product you will receive a full refund.

Good Luck, and thanks for stopping by Willy B Mum.

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First Years Video Contest & Giveaway

We are excited to share with you an exciting opportunity from Green Scene Mom and The First Years, who is now casting young families with unique stories for a cool new online reality series. This is a fun way to show off your unique story, and families who enter have the chance to score $7,500+ in prizes. The more personal the story, the better! We are offering an awesome The First Years giveaway too!

0206-first-years-giveaway-enterNow Casting Families!

The First Years is looking for a cast of characters from a wide variety of backgrounds to show America what the first years of parenting are really all about. New parents with children ages newborn to 20 months and expecting parents are all invited to enter.

All it takes for a shot at starring in The First Years Welcome to The Family Video Series is a 30 second Smartphone video and 100-word (or less) story about what makes your family’s story totally unique. We invite you to learn more and enter your family’s story at family.thefirstyears.com

Willie Wilkov, the Chief Marketing Officer of TOMY International shares the inspiration behind the contest. “The First Years totally gets what the first years of life are really like, which is far from picture-perfect. Our video contest is all about documenting the joy, laughter and unpredictable moments that quite often become the most memorable ones. We’re celebrating real families and the experience that make their parenting journey all their own.”
How to Enter

1. A Story: In 100 words or less, describe what makes your new family totally unique by giving an up-close-and-personal look at the parenting journey your family is taking. The more personal their story is, the better!

2. A Video: Share a 30 to 60 second video that shows what parenting moments are really like in your home — the good, the bad and the “I-can’t-believe-that-happened” moments. Think reality TV, only actually real!
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Green Scene Mom is also excited to offer a fabulous giveaway of brand new toddler products, sponsored by The First Years — just a small taste of what the winners of the video contest will receive! Enter our giveaway below for the chance to win one (1) prize package of (boy or girl) toddler products! One winner will be chosen 3/2/15. Giveaway is open to entries with a United States mailing address.

Each household is only eligible to win 3 TOMY product prize packages, via blog reviews and giveaways, each calendar year. Only one entrant per household per giveaway. If you have won the same product prize package on another blog, you will not be eligible to win it again. Winner is subject to eligibility verification.

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Valentine’s Day Red Salad

Embrace the spirit of love in your kitchen this Valentine’s Day, by making this delicious “hearty” salad. Kindly submitted by mother and daughter duo, Paulding and Company, a full catering kitchen based in San Francisco. This salad was created to raise awareness and support of, Women’s Cardiovascular Health Awareness.saladhighresYield:  2 servings

What You Need

  • 1 small red beetroot
  • 1 small “cocktail size” grapefruit
  • 1 small blood orange
  • 1 small head Treviso (red chicory)
  • ½ cup finely shaved fresh fennel

Dressing

  • grated zest from the orange
  • 1 tsp. finely minced shallot
  • 1/8 tsp. dry mustard
  • 2 tsp. sherry vinegar
  • 1 tsp. lemon juice
  • 1/8 tsp. salt, or more to taste
  • freshly ground pepper to taste
  • 2 Tbs. extra-virgin olive oil

What To Do

  • Steam the beetroot until tender, ½ hour for medium-sized. When tender, cool, peel and cut julienne (if you slice it on a mandolin and then sliver the slices, you’ll get even size pieces). Place in a bowl large enough for all the salad ingredients
  • Zest the orange and set aside in a bowl. Completely peel the grapefruit and orange: first slice off the top and bottom, then stand the fruit on the cutting board and pare away the skin and pith in broad swaths. Slice or segment the orange, and segment the grapefruit (do this over a bowl, to catch the juice for the dressing).  Place the segments in the bowl with the beets
  • Carefully wash and dry the treviso leaves, then slice cross-wise into slivers. Place in the bowl with the beets and citrus
  • Wash the fennel, trim off any brown spots and surfaces. Using the stalks as a handle, thinly shave the fennel bulbs on a mandolin, being very careful of your fingers; if you don’t have a mandolin, simply slice as thinly as possible with a sharp knife. Add the fennel to the chicory
  • Make the dressing: combine the zest, minced shallot, mustard, vinegar, lemon, salt and pepper in the bowl with your captured grapefruit and orange juice. Whisk in the oil. Taste the dressing, adjust balance as needed with more vinegar, salt, etc.  Since the beets and fruit are sweet, you want the dressing a little more tart than a regular salad dressing.
  • Just before serving, toss the salad with some of the dressing, to taste. Finish with a light grinding of black pepper from the mill

We hope you enjoy this salad. Thanks for stopping by Willy B Mum!

Love Snowshoeing

I just arrived home from 8 glorious days in the Wasatch Mountains in Utah, on a family ski trip, which was beyond some-kind-of wonderful. I enjoyed it so much, saturated with moments spent looking around in awe at the natural beauty surrounding the Snowbird Ski and Summer Resort where we were staying. Not to mention, spending quality time with my husband and Son, I am so grateful for the experience.

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Snowbird is one of 137 mountain resorts USA-wide that has a permit to operate on National Forest lands. The compound resides, a scenic 45 minute drive from Salt Lake City airport, in the Uinta-Wasatch-Cache, at around 8000 feet above sea level. It is known as one of best expert level terrains for snowboarders and skiers, which averages around 500 inches of snow per season – constant fresh powder.

If you are considering a family ski trip I highly recommend Snowbird!

Snowshoeing

IMG_1879Snowshoeing is an aerobic winter activity, which provides the same kind of workout you will get from running or biking. By wearing specially designed snowshoes, a person’s body weight is evenly distributed, which allows walking on the snow with ease.

My husband is considered a double-black-diamond skier, he is very experienced having trained with the US Olympic ski team when he was younger. And, my 4-year-old Son, who started skiing when he was a mere 2 years of age, is a budding and appreciative skier. However, alas, I am not such a fan of the cold and prefer to only be outdoors for a small part of the day. Not like the other 2, who happily spent the majority of every day outdoors in the snow.

With this in mind, skiing has never really been an interest of mine, however snowshoeing is perfect; I can get a quick fix out among my beloved Mother Nature, hike for a bit, burn a ton of calories, and be indoors cuddled up by the fireplace in no time.

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My Son’s snowshoe prints

Snowshoeing, is an easy pastime (once you get used to the shoes), which can be adapted to all skill levels and age, just put on your snowshoes and start walking. It is also a relatively priced sport, all you need are snowshoes, and optional walking poles. Snowshoes for adults start around the $100 USD mark, with children’s snow shoes starting at a lot less.

Snowshoeing is an effective form of exercise to burn through calories, and I love that. Personally speaking, the first winter after I gave birth to my Son I spent many weekends outdoors snowshoeing with my husband, and I saw my pregnancy weight melt away. This is where my love of snowshoeing started!

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  • you have to lift your legs higher walking when snowshoeing – the deeper the snow the more energy you will burn
  • if there is snow, you can snowshoe – take a path less traveled, climb hills and walk in as deep as snow as you can
  • don’t just walk, run – snowshoeing is a low impact sport thanks to the cushioning of the snow, and adding sprints will up your cardiovascular results
  • enjoy the beauty and clear your mind – stay in the moment, notice the sounds the birds and the shape of the trees or buildings, feel the wind
  • spend some time with your family and friends – snowshoeing is accessible to all ages, including grand parents and little ones
  • use walking poles – by using poles you will also be giving your arms and shoulders some love, helping to tone and strengthen
  • get wild and crazy – throw on a headlamp and go for a night walk, check out the wildlife (whether that is in the city or the country)

Added bonus to snowshoeing, your body has to work harder to keep warmer in the cold so you are already burning more calories right there!

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I really enjoy snowshoeing, and Utah was a perfect setting for my recent adventure. The mountain ranges … the fresh air, it was just beautiful.

Now I am back in New York City, where we also have so much snow at the moment, so this weekend I am looking forward to being outdoors and doing it all again, in a completely different world.

Thanks for stopping by Willy B Mum.

Sleep and Our Family {guest post}

I put all this energy, during my pregnancy, so that my Son would have his space and his room and in my pregnant mind that is where he was always going to sleep: alone, happy, long, long hours. I am such a sound and good sleeper that not even for one brief moment I thought my baby could be any different. Or maybe it was just the denial of the possibility driven by my own attachment to precious undisturbed sleep.

The calming quiet nursery, as well as the peaceful images of a profoundly sleeping baby, were very honorable, harmonic and kind, but, soon to be proven, utopic imagery in my mind.

My son happens to have a different kind of awareness of the world, and mind, and alertness and sleep patterns. He only now at age 2 sleeps through the night (half of the nights) and it’s not one thing that wakes him up, like milk or water or diaper or stuffed nose.

IMG_1825Rather, it is his alertness that wakes him up with every little discomfort. Babies can’t soothe themselves as we can, and the process of teaching him that (or better yet, being there for him until he figured it out) was long, and still in progress, to be quite frank.

In the beginning it was super hard for me, as a heavy and sound sleeper, to be there for him, fully present and happy. But harder than the physical demands of that, was dealing with my previous expectations about his sleep.

I was not a bad or not functional mother because my son didn’t sleep through the night at age 20 months, as it turned out. Nor did he have a “sleep problem” because of that. It was just his process through early childhood, our process. It was and is about his nature, and not me, or the parenting books, or the nurse telling me to let him cry.

IMG_1826When I took the pressure off of me, and him also, of “having to sleep though the night”, all that concern gave way to a wonderful discovery, thought and consideration about sleep. Sleep became a journey, and not an end. Something with which we will, as a family and as individuals, have to deal with for our entire lives, and I made a conscious decision of being there for my son, whenever he needs me to be comfortable to sleep, at 2 months old, 2 years old, 10 years old, or older.

Being hands down about it, accepting what our sleep reality at the moment was, and dealing with that integrally, rather than behaviorally – expecting results in detriment of understanding essence before behavior – proved to be for me, and my family, a truthful rich path to follow.

I started to listen more to my son’s signals. He likes to sleep on his own bedroom, with my presence. If he wakes up and needs me for whatever reason, I go to his room.

I really use my intuition to know what he wants and needs (it was especially useful before he could talk). Some phases he needs me and calls or cries, and other phases he’s pretty good on his own.

Being a part-time stay-at-home-mom and observing his early development closely, this kid has been through so much.

We take it for granted how much there is to learn once you pop out your head from your mother’s body: it’s a crazy, complex and beautiful world out here (I would totally be calling my mom over every once in a while to cuddle with me).

Every new developmental milestone is filled with excitement and also insecurity and fear of the new – it’s human nature, especially for tiny humans.

IMG_1828So, the way I see it is: I’m happy and glad to offer my presence and love whenever he needs, be it night or day. I don’t expect him to be able to deal with the “days affairs” by himself, as I also don’t expect me to do so. I don’t sleep well every night, and I still need my mom more than I’d like to admit.

Sleep and relaxation is a much more complex thing that it seems: think about how many close people to you have insomnia.

Aaand, he is just going to be this little and smell and look like this once, so I might as well enjoy it. Soon enough he will be a pre teen and I will be locked outside his bedroom!

In time, with this text I am not trying to sell our solution to other parents. I don’t even believe there is such thing as a “solution” about sleep, just as there is no universal child and parent.

What I would like to share through this journey is, how rich and liberating of a process it was to listen to my intuition, my nature and my son’s nature, to re-think our entire relationship with sleep. It doesn’t make me “right”, it doesn’t make me sleep more, it doesn’t make me tell people that my son “is a good sleeper”, but it brings me (and my family) contentment and peace.

Namaste

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Patricia Borelli is a yoga and meditation practitioner and teacher, who thinks a whole lot and loves to write, as a way to help understand, and live, life.
She currently learns and teaches at Hosh Yoga (Brooklyn) and Ishta Yoga (Manhattan), in New York CIty.